Just to refresh, bring you up to speed, it was the Young Man’s last week in the country. Since his leaving party, we went from civil and polite exchanges to dinner and bonding. After dinner on Monday, I assumed that would be the last time I would see him before he left the country so I had pretty much said all my good byes.
We whatsapp a bit on Tuesday and in the evening we talk for ages into the early hours. Naturally we discussed dinner the day before, him saying he loved me, what he enjoyed about the date and just general chit chat about life, what we want out of marriage, if he wasn’t going away he would have started a relationship/courtship with me and be married within four to six months. The conversation ends when he says he is so tired he is experiencing chest pains. lol
We whatsapp on Wednesday (last full day in the country) morning on my way to work. Although he has a busy day, he says he would love to see me and will try to but he has yet ANOTHER leaving party to attend. Seriously, Mr Popular or what?
Initially when we made loose plans in the morning, I was blasé about it all but I remember being at work in the afternoon and suddenly feeling this sense of loss and needing to be close to him one last time. I needed to see him. The feeling, desire, just came on me and I was thinking please let us see each other tonight. I started hoping and on the way home I tried to calm myself so I would not be too crushed if we did not see each other. I still hoped though.
I got home, prayed, which helped and then had some dinner as I hadn’t heard from him. Half way through eating I whatsapp him “?”. He whatsapp back with “hi, how are you, how was your day etc.” I’m thinking forget that, let me know soon as whether we are meeting up…but please let us meet up.
I manage to contain myself however and whatsapp back the usual pleasantries day was ok, how was yours etc. Are we still meeting up? He text back that he was already in town. That was a surprise, I thought the leaving party would be near where he lived which is definitely not close to town. 15 mins later, he whatsapp “where are you, I am leaving now”.
At that precise moment I was doing the washing up in my pyjamas, but I feel a squeal of excitement that we are going to meet up. “Errr at home, where shall I meet you” I whatsapp. “Ok, maybe we meet where we met last time” he texts. Yay!!! By the way he is referring to Bills restaurant. Do try to keep up. Lol.
So I literally finish washing up, wash my face, brush and floss my teeth to freshen up and start getting ready. The dress outfit I thought was cute an hour ago I now think makes my upper arms look fat. Change. Spray some perfume, do my hair, almost out the door and I change my dress again! Grrrrrr.
I leave the house at about 8:30pm and I am the restaurant within 10 minutes. Role reversal, this time he has been waiting for me. He has a nice table for two near a window, hidden away in the corner. Perfect. I walk over and he stands up and we hug and say hi. No kiss on the cheek this time. I sit down but notice that my chair is opposite him and I feel uncomfortable , formal and far away from him. “I don’t like this, I like proximity” I say as I move my chair to sit to his right. I felt more comfortable immediately. He seemed tired, was tired and a little more quiet than yesterday.
We talk about his day, the leaving party – he did contemplate inviting me but thought it would have been awkward for me. I am touched that he wanted me there. “I would still have wanted to spend time with you alone though” I say. After a short while I notice he isn’t instinctively and immediately touching me. “Why aren’t you touching me today”I ask him. He laughs and plays with my right hand and we hold hands. I am expecting him to be touchy feely like he usually is but this time the roles are reversed and he is more laid back. What’s going on? I do notice that my hormones and emotions are under control. I still feel alive and uber happy to see him and spend time with him but I don’t feel that desire and chemistry that I have been feeling. Result!
“I’m really glad you saw me tonight. I didn’t expect that we would” I tell him. Apparently he had every intention of seeing me. “Really?” I say.
He tells me that I should do the ordering since he did it Monday. We go for drinks but no food because we have both eaten. I order virgin cocktails as neither of us drink. When they arrive, I ask him to try some of mine which he does using my straw. Naughty naughty. I try some of his but using MY straw. I love how he is always willing to try something new and sort of immerse himself in things I like. For the second round, I ordered a watermelon cocktail and it arrived with a quarter size watermelon wedge – I fed him some and then went to feed him again but would slowly pull it away from his lips every time he wanted to bite. Then we would both laugh.
We talk about him leaving, he says its surreal, he can’t believe he is going. Says it doesn’t seem as if I’ll miss him, that I am happy he is going. I say no, when people leave I let them go but if they go away and maintain contact then I stay in contact but if they don’t then I leave it as they were only supposed to be in my life for that period of time. “I can’t stress over everyone that lives, – it would be a life half lived” I say. “I will come back though” he says and he really believes he will.
“Perhaps, but you could come back to Canada, the states or maybe even another part of England. Or maybe, what if when you get home, you meet someone else and when you come back you’re with someone. Three months is a long time and where would that leave me if I was just waiting “I say. He looks at me then he looks down at the table. “Or what if you meet someone else” he says. “Would you be heartbroken. How sad would you be” I jokingly ask. He looks sad and continues looking down at the table. I laugh. “Would you really be heart broken” I ask. “Yes” he says eventually “but ill get over it, ill have to”. I say I’m not the sort of person to fall in and out of love, once I am all in and fully invested, that’ll be it for me. He just looks and listens when I talk.
Because he is much more quiet than usual and I am as always full of energy, I talk and ask him questions. We talk about a lot and I talk more about myself than I would usually do.
Above all that I just loved feeling so close to him.
We order more cocktails and keep talking, laughing, “bonding” as he puts it. We take selfies together. It’s funny, its playful, its nice and we each tell a story about said selfies. My story is about the time line of things between us. His is of how much of a distraction it was having me there for our Friday night prayers.
We muse over what could have happened had he stayed longer. I tell him I don’t think we would have been as open and as expressive as we have been –“what’s happened over the last couple of days is like a month’s worth of stuff” I say. He agrees and says we have been bonding the last couple of days and it may not have been so had he stayed longer.
“Dont you mind me being bigger than you” I ask. “Are you” he asks. YES! I put my hands around his arms and he does the same to me. I point out his legs are the size of my arms. He laughs and just shrugs. I ask if he can pick me up to which he says he definitely can. Yay, the important things in life. 🙂
We are the only ones left in the restaurant, he pays the bill and gentleman that he is, he holds my coat up so I can put it on. Awwww. When we get to the taxi rank, the goodbye is much shorter this time. We hug, walk a bit and then hug for a bit longer.
And we say goodbye.
We whatsapp a bit when I get home and I send him our selfies.
In the morning when I wake up and check my phone he has whatsapp me, “morning dear, how was your night, feeling sleepy seriously “ He sends pics of him at the airport.
“How was my night? You know how it was …I was with you” I text back. He is boarding so I wish him a safe journey and text “I’ll miss you” with a heart. “Yeah, in the queue. Miss you too“.
And that was that.